Here we continue our look at the classical tradition of Christian spiritual formation by examining the Benedictine vow of stability – the commitment to stay put, to stay engaged in our most valuable relationships and to work out the discipline of love within them.
Our 21st century culture is more mobile and virtual than ever, making it easy to be ever-seeking greener relational pastures. From friendships to marriages to churches, it is very tempting to think that if my specifically defined needs are not being met, the solution is to look elsewhere. And while there are times relationships must shift or end, we should very reticent to come to that conclusion. Because it is in relationship that love is refined. I cannot learn to love in isolation. Nor can I grow in love without my brokenness being forced to the surface to be recognized and healed (in and by love!).
It’s why Benedict, in the early 6th century, insisted on a vow of stability – that once a monastic entered a community, they were bound to that community unless God, very clearly, called them to leave (a discernment made by the community, not just the individual).
No one was ever held captive, of course. But staying together, refusing to bail out of conflict and frustration and long-suffering, was understood as an essential part of the work of loving discipleship.
This is a sermon that was originally presented at Canvas (a Presbyterian church in Irvine, CA), April 26, 2015. To learn more about Canvas, click here!
